There is value in holding our tongue, or practicing temperance.  The Old Testament emphasizes self-control as a core virtue as evidenced in both Solomon’s books of Proverbs and in the Ten Commandments.  The New Testament does as well, with self-control being one of the fruits of the spirit.

Remember Matthew 5:39?  Jesus said, “Do not resist one who is evil.  But if anyone strikes you on the right check, turn to him the other also.”  It is always unexpected when we return anger with self-control, and it is always remembered.  Try it the next time you feel angry.  Your temperance and self-control will most likely get you further than your anger, especially if the other person is aware of your trying to repair the relationship.

If we practice virtues such as self-control and temperance, we are showing that the Holy Spirit is alive in us, and others will see God’s good nature through us.

Was there a time when self-control helped repair a relationship in your life?  I would love to hear from you.